Dating amp relationships
Dating amp relationships
Have you ever read an online dating profile and tried to decipher the internet acronyms listed?
It's the calmest place in your life, the safest blanket you've ever worn. It eats away at you when you go to sleep or leave each other for just a few hours. There is never a feeling that something has been taken away or is leaving with the other person.
There's a void in immature relationships, an apparent absence and incessant worry that something's missing.
They are comfortable and secure and free of doubt because mature love isn't about all those small questions, but a comfort in knowing the big one is answered.
There are always going to be people in your life, pasts to each person and surprises behind closed doors.
Mature couples, however, do not feel threatened by strangers and past lovers.
They are confident in their love and their partner's love. They're delusional and paranoid because their love is superficial.
They do not have a strong enough foundation to effortlessly glide past all the distractions and threats.
Mature couples don't “fall in love,” they step into it. How can you tell if your relationship is in it for the long haul or the two-month plummet everyone predicted behind your love-obsessed back? Drama is for people who don't know how to have a relationship — who live by idealistic, preconceived notions that love must be wild and obsessive. It's something that happens naturally; it doesn't need to be fought for day in and day out. A mature relationship lives by this peace of mind; immature ones drown in it. It burns dimly when you're together, but you wave it off with sex and constant chatter. The love between the two mature people fills every crack in the fiber of their being they didn't know they had.
Love isn't something you fall for; it's something you rise for. First, it should be easy, from the beginning to end. When you love someone, and he or she loves you, and there's no doubt to his or her feelings and no doubt to yours, that's peace of mind. Immature relationships are formed by two incomplete people. They are two people looking for something that can't be found in another person.
It's about pushing each other to pursue their passions, interests and become the best person possible. It's easy to spend days in bed and weekends in the hazy world of blankets and kisses.
But eventually, that smothering love is replaced with motivated love — a type of love that comes when you want to make a life with someone and work hard to get that life. They never feel that motivation to leave each other only to come back more successful and more determined to make a life for the two of them. Mature couples do not spend their days bickering over a screen.
We all have a past, and in many cases, one we're not proud of.